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<\/a><\/p>\nA little asshole math\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n In the end being happy is pretty simple …I know how that sounds coming from me, what i mean to say is that it’s not complicated. The most important thing in your life is the people you surround yourself with. That’s all that really matters, whether or not you surround yourself with quality people and cast off the asshol<\/span>es.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n Once you determine someone is no good you need to send them packing. It is not your job to fix people, or be mother Teresa and take their abuse in hopes that they change on their own.\u00a0 Now …there are certain cases where someone has earned the right to a couple of bad days, or is going through a rough patch or you know in the end they are decent and so you cut them some slack …while telling them to stop being an asshole or they can go be fucked.\u00a0 I’m not saying to turn your back on someone who has earned your friendship.\u00a0 I’m talking about right from jumpstreet, is this person quality or not.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n 90% of the bullshit problems in life can all be avoided by spending as little time with assholes as possible.\u00a0 Sure, there is the percentage of assholes that you can’t do much to avoid because you work with them, BUT all the rest you can just walk away from.\u00a0 This includes family.\u00a0 Being blood does not mean your life has to be filled with someone else’s drama\/problems that they richly deserve and often seek out.\u00a0 That’s what assholes do they create their own problems, then let small problems become big problems , and magically their problems end up being your problems.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n If you stay away from assholes you not only avoid all the problems that stem from their assholeness BUT that also means you, by simple process of elimination, are surrounded by decent people who will help you with the remaining 10% of life’s bullshit problems.\u00a0 And I don’t just mean that for each asshole you eliminate there is an open spot for a decent person, the thing to remember is decent people avoid assholes…SO if you have assholes in your life, even if you are NOT an asshole, you will likely be avoided by many decent people because of the assholes you are constantly around.\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n You want decent people around you.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n This applies to friends, family AND dating.\u00a0 This is a segment of life were you are doomed to failure if you have assholes around. Maybe you have a jealous loser friend or some a-hole bitchy ex…having those people hanging around almost ensures whatever relationship you start will get fucked up and drown in drama. Not everything happens on purpose…ass holes in your life will get wind of small meaningless arguments and help blow them out of proportion, plant a little seed in the back of your brain that they know will grow into a suffocation tree of “why did I ruin all that over some stupid little thing?”. Why do they do this? Because they are jealous, because they like drama…the same reasons assholes do everything they do…which is why if you simply avoid them life is much better. <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n Also here, you really have to judge people by their character<\/em>.\u00a0 You really need to ignore all the nervousness and not being cool or confident the first couple of times you go out with someone.\u00a0 Really,\u00a0 you are doing yourself an injustice by not giving the person a little time to get comfortable and stop being nervous and get a little balance so that his or her actual personality can come out.\u00a0 Everybody gets nervous and nobody (for the most part) is really acting like themselves the first couple of interactions…hey, even I get insecure once in a while, it just never shows much because I’m really comfortable in my own skin and so I don’t care if look like I’m nervous…so then I don’t look nervous even though I’m nervous because I don’t care that I’m nervous.\u00a0 It’s a rare\u00a0 ability to feed off of insane circular logic that I have. What you just need to focus on what is important-is he\/she a good person, is he\/she kind, is he\/she treating me nicely.\u00a0 Seriously …start with that.\u00a0 The world is littered with good decent lonely people, and also ironically, littered with people who are dating or married and getting treated like shit.\u00a0 There is no need for you to be either one of those. Cool or not cool, nervous or not nervous, good looking or not, these are secondary elements.\u00a0 These are like a fancy paint job…sure it’s up there in what you want in a car but FIRST you want to know the car will run , right?\u00a0 Now some of you will say “that’s pretty good coming from you, you never date anyone ugly nor will you let anyone unattractive work at your shows.” FIRST OFF…I’ve never said i wouldn’t date someone ugly…i just haven’t needed to. I’ve been able to find plenty of quality women who are also hot.\u00a0 and look I’m a world class illustrator I need to have arm candy for the sake of my image…it’s the cross I have to bear.\u00a0 You understand that don’t you?\u00a0 It’s like this, am a world traveler, pretty and talented, so i drink from a different pool. The one perk of sacrificing for your dreams for a decade is that you are closer to the top of the dating food chain.\u00a0For whatever reason being an “artist” trumps pretty much anything (else at least until the shine wears off the apple)…so, if I where to be walking around at a convention with an ugly person, people would assume I didn’t look hard enough to find a good looking person who was quality…and think me lazy…they could then assume I am also lazy in my work.\u00a0 I am defending my integrity by being superficial….you follow me?\u00a0 No? look…just stop asking questions and listen.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n .\u00a0 It sounds like I’m talking apple pie in the sky here but it’s true. really just focus on being a good person and surrounding yourself with good people.\u00a0 Just think about allllll the dumbass drama that has occurred in your life, I’ll bet only 10% of it involved you and one other person and 90% of it involved you and one or several assholes that really didn’t need to be involved. <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n Look around at your life and if there is an asshole there…get rid of him\/her. You don’t need to give a reason. Just cut him\/her off. The end. Stop responding to phone calls, texts, e-mails…If you end up in the same place..don’t strike up a conversation, and just politely wander off. If pressed for an answer as to why they seem to have been cut off from your life…just say what I say “well….you’re an asshole”. I realize I am more comfortable with confrontation than most people so you could say something like ” I’m kinda into different things now” or “yeah I’m pretty busy”..or whatever. It doesn’t really matter because the asshole will find someone’s life to fuck up after growing impatient with the lack of options being presented for fucking up yours. <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n bottom line to life is this 1-don’t be an asshole\u00a0 2-don’t be around assholes.\u00a0 simple yes?<\/span>
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